Magazine
for Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy With Non-Achievers
by
Maurice Kouguell, Ph.D., BCETS
For
the purpose of this presentation, "Non-Achievers" may be defined as
students or employees who have made a choice not to achieve. I will
use the example of "students" to illustrate my discussion. Non-achieving
students may be those registered in a course of study, such as high
school or college, who gradually refuse to attend and refuse to achieve.
They seem to take a route of least resistance by avoiding school, avoiding
persons that they are accountable to or feel that they are accountable
to. The path of least resistance is frequently not one which is comfortable.
These students experience guilt, anxiety and somatizations of all kinds,
manifesting themselves as stomach cramps or back aches. Daily, they
may make decisions which may not be completely based on their own wishes.
Even when they choose to leave the campus the fact that they came in
to the campus or the vicinity of the campus and the fact that they left
their home, is an indication of itself that they still retain some contact
with the institution.
Students feel trapped, they do not wish to be trapped; they feel frustrated,
they don't wish to feel frustrated; and above all, they end up feeling
very angry toward the institution and with themselves.
With each day that passes, their anxiety becomes more and more overwhelming.
Gradually, they develop a whole system of thought which they use to
justify their avoidance of the educational process, the process of attendance
and their behavior. They see themselves as having made the right choices.
"School stinks. The whole world stinks. I will never be able to use
what the school is teaching me."
There is a definite distinction between non-achieving students and school
phobic students. The non-achieving student can move in and out of the
school grounds and the school structure quite comfortably. The school
phobic cannot leave his or her house. What both groups have in common
are emotional problems. This article will limit itself to the non-achieving
student, the one who can go in and sit in class but chooses not to.
I will address myself specifically to the techniques used with those
students in individual sessions of hypnotherapy.
Characteristics
The
common trait found among all students with whom I have worked are:
1. poor self-esteem
2. poor self-image
3. depression
4. a wish to return to the mainstream but feeling trapped in this new
way of life.
5. shame
6. guilt
7. helplessness
8. resignation to the current fate
9. hostility misdirected
10. rejection by:
- a
parent
- authority
figures within the school system
- some
of their peers
The
First Visit
The
first interview must convey the feeling of an alliance between the hypnotherapist
and the client. The students' pain needs to be articulated. Often they
feel that no one understands them, no one cares and basically no one
knows how much pain they are experiencing. Most of the experiences with
authority figures such as parents or teachers have been based on, or
characterized by, reprimands and techniques geared at belittling their
self-worth.
They come to your office usually prepared not to listen and prepared
not to return. The very first visit is the most essential. At that time,
I choose to explain how she or he might feel, emphasizing that it takes
courage to take that step forward, to seek help. Often their response
to that is, "I'm here because somebody told me I'd better come here
or else...", I will continue to reinforce the fact that the client has
the courage to reach out and it takes courage to look at oneself.
As they reveal negative statements about school or home, I quickly agree,
pointing out that they have good judgment, namely, why should one like
anything if what is offered does not meet his/her needs? I then point
out that it is unfortunate that the reward for not attending school
is the extension of the academic year by two more months in the summer,
the possible retention of another year, thus extending a painful experience
by a year and a summer in addition to the current requirements.
It is a surprise to see how few students have thought about it in this
way. I explain that what we will do is use hypnosis as a way to make
them
feel better quickly. I also explain that I feel that their lifestyles
have been such that they usually seek quick answers to any kind of discomfort
and that is what hypnosis will give them.
I conclude by stating that hypnosis will give them a certain feeling
of power and they will have control over what they really want to do.
Usually, the response is: "What I want to do I am doing now, which is
not being in school." Once again, I reiterate, "Hypnosis will give you
power."
Up
to now, they have been demonstrating power not to do what is expected
of them. They may choose to use hypnosis for whatever they really wish
to do. I simply reinforce the statement that hypnosis will give them
power. One must bear in mind that they arc in my office because they
are experiencing a certain amount of guilt, fear and anxiety. I ask
them what they know about hypnosis and explain to them the usual explanation
given to any of my clients.
When
I ask them what they know about hypnosis, most of my student population
expect to see me working with a crystal pendulum and using strong authoritarian
suggestions. When this clue is given to me, I use a pendulum and I play
the role of the hypnotist. The result is they expect and end up playing
the "patient role" as they see it. This is done spontaneously and quickly.
It is important for mc during that first session to impress on them
the power of hypnosis. I may choose to use the pendulum in any way I
please, however, my technique is always accompanied by other techniques
of quick hypnosis, such as used by Dave Elman. The hypnosis is reinforced
by using deepening techniques.
During that very first session the client is given the feeling of self-confidence
and relaxation. When they leave the office after the first session,
they have actual proof of how hypnosis works for relaxation and stress
reduction.
When they can leave this experience feeling good, they will anticipate
that they will get quick results simply because this population generally
exhibits a low frustration tolerance, indicating that they do not have
the patience to become involved in any long-term projects such as being
in any kind of institution, school, college or home. In the visits to
follow, I address myself to the ten points previously listed.
Depending
on the individual case, I frequently use the imagery of guilt, shame
and anger being put into a balloon attached to or being held in the
patient's hand. I have them letting the balloon go, going up into the
sky until it is no longer seen, thus giving up some of those negative
feelings.
Techniques of ego-strengthening are used in each session and are primarily
based on the induction as used by John Hartland.
All the above are directions which I see as being various little streams
leading into a large river. The larger river is to become the hypnotherapist’s
own direction to each specific case, always bearing in mind that this
population will respect best to him/her as an alliance which is being
formed between two parties. One must also keep in mind that for most
of those patients the hypnotherapist might well be the first non-judgmental
person to listen to them.
At one of the sessions the story of Pinocchio is brought up while purposely
omitting the moral.
Finally
always remain aware of your patient's needs. Hypnosis, imagery and visualizations
are techniques. The goal is the resolution of the conflict within the
patient. The hypnothcrapist must keep in mind that this population does
not expect anything to work. They are dealing with past histories of
having failed to accept or comply with family life, school or authority
figures.
Frequently some of my clients remain guarded and analytic during the
sessions. In order to free them from this, I use multi-inductions after
they have gone into trance.
As I talk to them I will simultaneously play one of my own tapes talking
to them. The purpose of this technique is for them to receive messages
while they enter a state of confusion, abandoning their analytical thinking.
They will then experience a feeling of letting go. The basic thrust
is the use of imagery. I will list a few.
Imagery uses themes of rebirth. The metaphor of the little chick about
to be hatched with the expectations of himself in a new world from which
he has been isolated. This metaphor also involves that he had no choice
of being isolated.
The induction then proceeds to relate how the chick feels anticipating
at being hatched, the process of cracking the shell, the process of
coming out of the shell, looking at the world through a totally new
perspective, beginning to relate to the outside world, starting with
the immediate parents and going onto further horizons. I may use other
such fantasies. I have found that with some subjects, less abstract
themes, such as the grass not being greener on the other side can be
used effectively.
Poor self-esteem and poor self-image are approached with the purpose
of eradicating from their mind the use of any negative terminology or
any negative connotations and by using the kind of vocabulary which
will build up a positive attitude. Additionally, I use the blackboard
technique. I have them list all the negative labels they have ever heard
applied to themselves. Then, they are told to erase those negative labels
and replace them with new positive aspects.
Maurice
Kouguell Ph.D., BCETS. (Click here for Biography)
Director: Brookside Center for Counseling and Hypnotherapy
997 Clinton Place, Baldwin New York 11510
phone/fax 516 868-2233 e-mail contact@brooksidecenter.com
Brookside Center Web Site http://www.brooksidecenter.com/
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